Monday, March 18, 2019

Life in the Bush-veld with the Cows and the Crocs!


It has yet again been a busy month here in South Africa. We have spent time with family and friends and indulged in the countryside and the culture.

We have been fortunate enough to spend a weekend with Laurence's cousins at their trout farm near a place called Dullstroom, about 3 hours north east of Johannesburg. The farm is truly in the bundus. The last shop and indeed building we passed before reaching the farmhouse was about a twenty minute drive away down some dusty tracks. Shortly after turning down one track we came across a doddery old man stumbling along with a stick to steady himself. With light fading fast as it does in Africa, and with no dwellings in sight, we stopped to give this old boy a lift. Little did we realise that his stumbling along was less to do with his age and more to do with his afternoon spent in a shebeen, which is a native African public house. So we had a rather eventful few minutes trying to establish where he was headed. We dropped him off at a cross roads and left him in the capable hands of two young men, who knew our jolly friend, and then we carried on to the farm in the dark.

Our weekend at the farm was spent quad biking, trekking rather adventurously to a huge waterfall, and fishing in the many dams. It was great to see all the little cousins having so much fun together, as were the big ones too!

A quick spin on the quad bike with cousin Shaun and his son Matthew
An early morning fish at one of the dams
With cousin Jo and Elwyn's daughters, Skylar and Kiera

We raced off on the quad bikes deep into the African countryside, the children's adrenaline in full flow and with Elowen wanting to 'win the race'. We then began our trek to a hidden waterfall. With toddlers in tow, we somewhat naively traipsed through bogs, long grass, trees and bushes, over rocks and across streams, up hills and down hills, until we arrived at this amazing cascading waterfall. Amelie rather daringly climbed right to the edge to touch the falling water and we all had a splash in the pool at the bottom, no-one feeling brave enough to jump in for a swim, (I was convinced that it was probably full of crocodiles and snakes!) Joel amazingly walked all the way there and back, on what was a really fun afternoon. Navigating our way round a herd of cows once back on the quad bikes was the final hurdle, and it was home for an evening fish at the dams.
Our trek to the waterfall

We made it to the waterfall!
Cousins on stepping stones at one of the dams 

Elwyn and Joel fishing together


As with everyone in Laurence's life, I have got to know people over the years as we've sneaked a Christmas here or a wedding there, but to get to know family and friends at a slower pace, has been really special. And the weekend at the farm was one such occasion.

Since arriving in Africa, we have had the absolute pleasure of getting to know Shepherd, the gardener who comes to our house once a week. Every Thursday we spend lunch together on the veranda and often delve into African politics, family news or explore each others cultures. Shepherd has loved hearing about the UK and learning about snow or the sea. Likewise I have delighted in learning about the Venda Tribe and hearing Shepherd's story.

Lunchtime with Shepherd


 Shepherd is from the Limpopo Province of South Africa, where the land is covered in grassy plains and clusters of dense trees, known as the bush-veld.  He also lives very close to Kruger National Park which is where all the 'Big Five' animals roam free. Shepherd never went to school but rather amazingly speaks six languages. As a child he would go for days without food, and now works six days a week to make sure that his children eat everyday. He also works with a very weak right arm as he was shot and left for dead a decade ago by someone wanting to steal his mobile phone. Needless to say, Shepherd's life is one of hardship and sacrifice, but incredibly, one of great stories and a wealth of knowledge too. Shepherd has taught me how to ward off lions with fire; and elephants by banging a pan (I guess with their big ears elephants are sensitive to noise!). He has told me how you must throw rocks in the river before you wash or swim, to scare the crocodiles away (I'm never going to try it); and he has sat with me in the garden and shown me how to thatch a roof, and explained how to plant, grow, harvest and store maize.

He has also told us, rather amusingly, how his village have put bells on the cattle and built them a nighttime pen. With all the roofs made of long grass, the cows are living in a sweet shop and if allowed to move silently at night, would indulge in a midnight feast of grass roof undetected until morning. So a late night tinkle of bells is sadly not a herd of reindeer in these parts but a cow escapee from the pen looking for a late night snack.

Shepherd lives most of the year in the township of Diepsloot, which is the area where I teach. The reason he is unable to live in the bush-veld is because his family can no longer sustain themselves off the land alone. With the population ever growing there is a lack of space to grow enough crops; and with the outlawing of hunting big animals due to all the poaching for tusks and horns in the ivory trade, Shepherd has had to look elsewhere to support his family. This is why he has worked his way up to becoming a gardener in the city and why his family now have to shop in the supermarket instead of off the land.

In a world trying to care more about the environment and live in a more efficient and sustained manner, Shepherd is a torch bearer. It is a shame that his tribe can no longer live in the way it once did. Maybe there will be a day when it becomes a way of life once more. Maybe a cow on the loose could one day become the world's biggest problem...

So as Africa is woven into our Willmore story and we experience and learn about the different cultures, it has once again been an adventure and a privilege to be in this wonderful place and to call it home.

Lots of love,

Jess xxx


Friday, February 15, 2019

School, School and School...


It's been another fun packed, jet set, month out here in South Africa. I have put my working cap on and started volunteering at the township school, which I'm loving; the children have put their school caps back on and are enjoying playing lots of sport; and I have managed to take off my parent cap and sneak in a trip to Cape Town to meet up with two of my childhood friends from school in the UK.

My work at Riversands Primary School in the township of Diepsloot has begun. I work within a team of dedicated volunteers and am teaching phonics to eight year olds. I have three sweet little students called Kefentse, Refilwe and Melody, a boy and two girls. One is confident, one shy, and the other has no understanding of English at all, but they concentrate well and are keen to learn. I'm quite in awe of these children as they are often hungry, they live in corrugated iron shacks with poor sanitation i.e. no running water and sewage disposal, no electricity, and on top of all that, have to go to school and learn in a language that is not their mother tongue. It's a different world to the one I grew up in and currently live in. Even the Army provided us with portaloos on exercise and we always new the exercise would end. I'm humbled everyday by people's will to fight against adversity and sometimes even with a smile on their faces. I'm enjoying the challenge of gauging the little ones' level of understanding and in helping them as best I can. We are having fun and currently working on the sounds 's', 'a' and 't'.

Riversands Primary School, Diepsloot

The Preschool playing outside of my classroom window.

Amelie and Elowen have had a whirl wind start at school. Elowen has taken up tennis and Amelie extra swimming. Both girls are also enjoying computer club and working hard in class. Joel has learnt to swim and is really enjoying the water. He paddles along saying, "I'm doing it, I'm doing it!"

Off to school and preschool
Joel's first swimming lesson with Teacher Lollipop

Sunset at Hout Bay, Cape Town
Laurence and I, courtesy of Granny, were able to spend a weekend away from the kids in Cape Town. With no kids in tow, and therefore filled with wild abandon, we spent endless hours at the beach, whether it was watching the sun setting behind the mountains or going for a morning walk, it was truly revitalising!

Having a meal at Dunes, Hout Bay

We spent an afternoon with two wonderful school friends of mine, SJ and Jacqui, who were on holiday with their families. We had a braai together, which is a South African barbecue, overlooking the ocean in a little fishing village called Fish Hoek (Afrikaans for Fish Corner). And as the name would imply, it quite literally is a bay full of fish. So it was rather fitting that a shark siren should interrupt our afternoon. We looked on to see if we could catch a glimpse of Jaws cutting through the waves, which we thought for a second we'd seen, only to realise that it was a kayaker making their way rather hastily to the shore. Never a dull moment here in Africa.

Me, Jacqui and SJ overlooking Fish Hoek

I also managed to squeeze in another beach Parkrun at Melkbosstrand just north of Cape Town with Laurence's sister, Gina, and brother in law, Phil. It was absolutely breath taking, which given the task at hand was rather unfortunate, but, jokes aside, it was an incredible moment to be running bare foot along the beach looking across at the iconic table mountain. My little waterproof feet served me well and we finished off with a post run dip in the ocean.

Melkbosstrand Parkrun, Bare feet out and ready!  

Running towards Table Mountain

Post run with Gina and Phil

It's a two hour hop between Cape Town and Jo'burg, and our plane did well to land in thunder and lightening. The power was out everywhere, not due to the storm but because of load shedding, which means that electricity is purposefully turned off by the government to conserve supply. A combination of trying to provide low cost electricity to the majority of the population post Apartheid to boost the economy, and in latter years, corruption within ESKOM the government provider of electricity, has meant that there is now not enough electricity produced to meet the demand. So whole suburbs just get switched off for four hour blocks, and this was our turn. We cautiously drove along the unlit streets, where even the traffic lights were off, and made it home safely. It was then that I felt like I had walked straight into a 19th century Charles Dickens novel as I had to find our lantern (albeit a solar powered LED version) and walk around the house with it to get the children into their pyjamas and into bed, and to read the teachers comments in their homework books. Carrying my lantern up and down the stairs coupled with the thunder and lightening going on outside, made me feel that it was only a matter of time before the Ghost of Christmas Past would reveal himself to me! Thankfully normality was restored by morning and 21st century living reigned once more.

So, from school to seaside frolics, Joel's swimming to a shark siren, and 21st to 19th century living and back; it's been another fun and busy month out here in South Africa.

I hope you are all well and surviving the tail end of winter.

Wishing you all lots of love, Jess xxx


Thursday, January 10, 2019

Christmas and New Year with the Elephants and Lions


Happy New Year One and All.

We have had a truly wonderful Christmas and New Year here in South Africa. From water parks to safari parks; Christmas day swims to surfing the New Year's waves; and braai after braai after braai after braai; it has been great to experience this all with our little brood and Laurence's family.

The lead up to Christmas was an interesting one. While I waited for all the triggers of sparkling lights, mulled wine and mince pies, Christmas markets, Christmas songs, and the familiar smell of Christmas trees, to lull me into the Christmas spirit; I was a little disappointed initially when it didn't materialise. And even when it did, singing 'In the bleak mid winter' in my shorts and t-shirt didn't seem quite right. You would have found me pacing round the house asking Laurence, "Where is Christmas?"




In my daily interactions with people I started to get a sense of what Christmas means to people out here. Over the years, a lot of people have moved to the cities to find work, leaving families in rural areas, or even in different countries like Zimbabwe. December is known as the 'builders holiday' and many people take a long holiday from work. People therefore make the long and dangerous journey home, having only been home once or twice in the year, to see loved ones and their home communities. So the lead up to Christmas was a combination of exhaustion at people not having had a break for a while, desperation at needing to earn enough money to get home, and a wonderful excitement as people prepared to go home to their families. So I began to see Christmas as a time to give generously, in time and money, for people's produce and service, in an effort to join in and help make Christmas a happy time for everyone. There was a sense of this spirit in Lonehill, and in the end, I realised I was enjoying Christmas in a different but thoroughly worthwhile way.

For Laurence, it too is about holiday with family, and it was such a pleasure to share that with him and his wonderful, and quite large (in number), family.


Whilst Laurence's mum, Lynn, lives near us in Johannesburg, Laurence's Dad, Geoff, lives on the coast in Port Elizabeth. So after a lovely Christmas with Lynn, we headed to Geoff's for New Year.

The 11 hour drive took us through vast swathes of countryside and through little rural towns and villages called 'dorps'. Surrounding the dorps are crop, cattle, sheep and ostrich farms. Often owned by the Afrikaans community, with the word 'Boer' meaning 'farmer', we got a glimpse of the slower pace of rural life. Many wind turbines called 'windpompes' are scattered over the landscape which pump water to the surface for the animals to drink from. They are quite iconic and show the dutch influence here in South Africa, and these were a constant feature on our drive. The occasional baboon or mongoose ran across the road in front of us as we drove along, and we even saw a sports field full of sheep, deployed to keep the grass short for the upcoming school term. It wasn't all rosy though, and the drive also featured us having pop corn thrown at our heads by those in the back, but if we would chose to drive 11 hours with children...

A windpompe creating a waterhole for the animals
A flock of sheep keeping the grass short on a school pitch
With Pops, Granny Bev and Auntie Robyn, in PE
We had great fun in Port Elizabeth, teaching the girls how to body board and spending time at the beach. I even squeezed in a Parkrun with Laurence's sister Robyn. Running along the sandy beach, with the swash of the waves at our feet, was an amazing experience. Next time I'll join the bare footers for this one!

Kings Beach, PE



Hobie Beach Parkrun, Port Elizabeth

We spent a day at a safari park where it was quite incredible how close we got to the animals. Watching the elephants silently plodding along with their kind eyes and long eyelashes was breathtaking and then all of a sudden somewhat nerve wracking as they walked towards us with no sense of changing direction! And seeing the harsher realities of life in a pride of lions eating a young buffalo they had caught that morning, was sobering. It was also interesting to discover the lengths which people will go to, to both protect and poach rhino. Safari parks will not mention whether they have any rhino just in case people have come to poach them. So like Lord Volemort in Harry Potter, the Rhino really is, 'he who shall not be named' out here in South Africa!

A big old elephant commanding the road

Female lion eating a young Buffalo

We are back home now in the last week of the summer holidays. The new school year begins on Wednesday 16th when routine can reign once more. The elephants and lions can hang up their trunks and manes until we descend on them again in a future school holiday.

I hope everyone had a great Christmas and New Year and that 2019 is both peaceful and kind.

As always, lots of love, Jess xxx


Tuesday, December 4, 2018

Spring has Sprung and Summer Beckons...


Hello Everyone, me again :)

So here we are, 6 weeks into our adventure, and summer holidays and Christmas are on the horizon...

With Spring behind us now and Summer ahead, we have started the experience of having a hot Christmas. We have exchanged the indoors to embrace the outdoors by attending Christmas Carols by Candlelight in Lonehill Park. A relaxed event where everyone came with a blanket and picnic, listened to Christmas songs and joined in with carols. Father Christmas made an appearance arriving rather quickly, and very much enjoying himself, on a motorbike (we decided that sleighs perhaps aren't appropriate in the southern hemisphere...) The children ran around, jumped on bouncy castles and danced by the stage under falling snowflakes. It was a lovely introduction to Christmas in Summer.


The girls after meeting Father Christmas

We have been enjoying all the different flora and fauna that South Africa has to offer, and arriving in Spring was an absolute pleasure. The flower that seems to be as common as daisies is the Agapanthus. But unlike the daisy, Agapanthus stands at about 3 feet tall and makes you feel a bit like a Borrower when you walk amongst them. Everything seems to be a bit bigger here in Africa! The blue flowering Jacaranda Tree has been truly vibrant as has the Bougainvillea. The Yesterday-today-and-tomorrow plant is just starting to flower in its three shades of purple and smells rather wonderful too.

The 3 foot Agapanthus

An avenue of Jacaranda trees
The lovely Bougainvillea

With all these new experiences and all the learning going on, unfortunately my African naivety has really shone through. I'm sure you can forgive me when I confess that I have been dutifully watering a potted plant in our garden that has turned out, quite bizarrely, to be made of plastic! I often laugh at myself but this was a good one!

Joel has also made us laugh with his own take on nature. It's the abundance of birds that catches your attention. And one such bird is the Hadida. It's about 1 foot tall with a long beak, and makes a sound like a high pitched pirate saying "Aaarrr". It's a bit of a shock when this sinister looking turkey lands in your garden. Joel saw one walking around on the grass and said, "Oh look Mummy, there's a super tiny Ostrich!"

The super tiny ostrich! (Hadida)

So Joel and I are both learning about the wonderful flora and fauna of South Africa.

If there was ever an excuse for McDonald's, we definitely found it. Mid cooking we ran out of gas, so we had to locate our gas cylinder round the back of the house and find a place to refill it. It's not that common to have gas in South Africa and most homes have electric stoves. I quote Laurence, "Only if you live in the bundus would you use gas" (middle of nowhere).



Whilst the children have been at school I have had the privilege of meeting the 23 orphaned girls, who I briefly mentioned in the previous blog, at their home. Initially homeless, they now live in a house loaned to them by a man who heard of their plight on the radio. The girls sleep 12 to a room and attend local schools. It is through the good will of the public that they have a roof over their heads and food to eat (not always), because the government do not support them. Through understandable frustration, local people burnt down the office that deals with benefits applications, and as a result, the local municipality have nowhere to work from to deal with all the people in need. So the girls rely on donations largely coordinated through Laurence's mum's church, and the nurturing of the dedicated house mothers who live with them, to survive. It's certainly a shock stepping out of the safety net of the UK to meet these lovely girls.

I have thought a lot about what the needs of the disadvantaged are, where my strengths lie and how I can help. I have often thought that I haven't got anything useful to give and felt frustrated in life about how to help. But the reality is that I have been given such an incredible education. And talking to people who have never been to school before has shone a light on, firstly the importance and power of education to change your circumstances, but secondly for me, a way I can help others. Our church in Lonehill has links with a school in the nearby township of Diepsloot. So I hope that a part of my adventure out here involves going to that school and helping out in whatever capacity they need an extra pair of hands. I will of course update you on this after Christmas when all the schools go back to start the new school year.

Amelie, Elowen and Joel break up for their summer holidays this week. Already? You hear me cry... and then cry! Yes, it's true. Summer holiday 2018 take 2. We will endeavour to stretch out any Christmas decoration making and baking and will report on this is due course.

I hope you are all wrapped up and enjoying festivities up north. We will miss Carols by Candlelight at home this year. Will Father Christmas appear on a motorbike there? Now there's a challenge!

Lots of love, Jess x


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Thursday, November 15, 2018

Settling in...

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Greetings from South Africa! A month has flown by already and we are settling nicely into our new country and starting to feel at home. We have experienced so much in this short time as we soak up our surroundings and the wonderful South African culture.

Our days are quite simple as we establish our new routine. We enjoy a relaxed breakfast together as a family whilst learning some Afrikaans. Laurence leads us in pronunciation as a 'g' is a guttural 'h', a 'v' is an 'f', a 'd' is a 't', the vowels are all mixed up, and you have to roll your r's!

We then head to the girls school followed by Joel's preschool whilst listening to a crazy mix of African music, Metallica and Disney songs.

The girls are really enjoying school. They have an incredible timetable with the added bonus of swimming in an outdoor pool.

Amelie has accrued enough points in class to choose an activity for herself. She turned down a day of sitting in the teachers chair for the option of 'Show and Tell'. She has taken in some photos of England to show the class where many have never seen snow before or a Queen's Palace! She has also been star of the week now for using some brilliant adjectives in class. Well done Am.

Elowen has surprised us with her growing confidence in the pool. She now happily jumps in with a noodle instead of just standing on the step. She is also the juiciest member of our family. The mosquitoes unfortunately love her. So we have developed an evening routine, little short of a military operation, of shutting windows and doors before lights go on and applying peaceful sleep to keep the bites at bay. But sometimes they win and Elowen comes downstairs in the morning saying,"I've been bitten by a dragonfly again", (very cute).

After school play with the neighbours and Elowen armed with her noodle

Joel has had an incredible start at preschool. Teacher Lara is in charge of the class of roughly 9 pupils. The children eat a hot breakfast and lunch and have 2 snacks during their day. In amongst all the eating, the children find time to do lots of artwork and lots of playing outdoors. Whether its racing round on bikes, climbing jungle gyms or playing in the sandpit, Joel is having fun. He's really relaxed, which makes us so happy. And he has had a birthday! Baker Boy Joel turned 4!


 Joel also has a pet. We have a Weaver bird who lives in our garden. He is endlessly making nests out of grass in our tree. If a lady Weaver doesn't join him in the nest before it turns brown then he has to pull it down and start again. Joel will often point out Weaver, his pet. We are routing for Weaver too!


I have completed my first South African Parkrun, hurrah! It was hard work. Even though it starts at 8 am instead of 9; the heat, the altitude and the hills (I should have predicted hills having moved to a place called Lone HILL) made it a tough 26 minutes and 55 seconds. And to top it off, a man at the end said that I looked how he felt! There is no need to have a shred of compassion for me however as I came home and did this...


But in amongst all the pleasures that South Africa brings, it's poverty is all to clear to see. Whether it's people helping you into a car parking space in exchange for a few Rand (10p); people filling up your car with petrol or packing your bags in the supermarket as part of the job creation in a country where 26% of South Africans are unemployed; or people with limbs missing, begging on the streets; the need is overwhelming. South Africa has just suffered a decade of corruption in the government under the former president, Jacob Zuma, which has affected the poor terribly. But the country is hopeful that, under the new president, Cyril Ramaphosa, who was Nelson Mandella's choice to succeed him, there will be great change. He is already stamping out corruption and bringing lots of investment into the country.

There is also some incredible charity work going on, which I would love to get involved in. Laurence's mum runs a soup kitchen for the poor, provides food for a house of 23 orphaned girls and has many more projects that she helps with. I will no doubt post about this in the future.

So, in all our joys in this African Spring, we have also loved watching Autumn, Halloween, Fireworks and Remembrance Day from afar. The wonders of social media! It is great to see what everyone is getting up to. And please do share this with people who's numbers I don't have. We will of course be in touch again soon.

Lots of love, Jess x


Sunday, October 28, 2018

Our African Adventure Begins...


Hello wonderful family and friends in the UK and around the world. At last I am able to write with our exciting news. We have arrived in sunny South Africa, hurrah!

Our visas, rather frustratingly, were delayed both at the South African Embassy and with the courier company. But despite this, we ended up having a very special five week stay at my mum's, seeing family and friends, before taking off on our African Adventure.

The flights via Dubai were seamless and we arrived on Thursday 18th October to a beautiful sunny day in Africa. Laurence and his mum, Lynn, met us at the airport and we headed to our new home in a suburb of Johannesburg called Lonehill. We live in a cluster of 10 houses surrounded by high walls and a gate. (The cluster is called Bishopstone.) It sounds a bit alien to the British psyche to live like this but what I have discovered is that it has created a safe environment where all the children can walk in and out of each others houses as they please. Little 5 year old Brighton pops in most days to play transformers with Joel. I imagine the UK in the 1950's used to be a bit like this. I really like it.



Within 24 hours of landing, the girls were in school! School begins at 7.40 am so it's a 6 o'clock start for us now. Mornings are not my forte but I'm actually enjoying being up so early. And who needs an alarm clock when the dawn chorus begins at 3 am! Elowen was very anxious before starting, but the second she met her new teacher and her new class mates she was very happy and has in fact won the 'Star of the Week Award' for settling in so well. Amelie is our cheese to Elowen's chalk. She was so excited to start, really helping Elowen with her nerves, but was understandably overwhelmed by all the new people when we actually got there. She is really loving school though but says she is going to have to learn African to understand what everyone is saying, (they're all speaking English, hee hee).  The school song is in English, Afrikaans and Isizulu and the girls are learning Afrikaans and Isizulu in class.



Little Joel has visited a preschool and will start on Monday (29th). The preschool have chickens and ducks roaming around, and instead of rocking horses they have rocking giraffe and zebra!

Laurence is enjoying working from home and not having the commute to London. He is also loving having his family around him and we have already had his siblings here for a braai and seen all 4 of his parents. They now have a turn at being more hands on with grand parenting (good luck!).

I'm really enjoying seeing Laurence in his home country. It's funny how culturally we are very similar yet our experiences growing up have been quite different. Here are a few things that I have experienced with him this past week...

1. A loud boom will follow when the lights go out in a storm. (The only time the lights go out unexpectedly in the UK for me is when I've knocked the fuse box when putting the clothes horse in the cupboard under the stairs!)

2. When a house has no guttering the rain comes down in waterfalls from the roof.

3. A lizard drops it's tail if it feels threatened. We had one in our kitchen  and on trying to get it out it's tail fell off and the tail continued to wriggle. It's methodology worked as I was left staring at the tail! (It grows a new one).

So, a week in, and we already feel quite settled. We have experienced school, preschool, church, family, and even seen friends Jo, Daniel and Matthew from Southampton. Knowing that we have such loving friends and family in the UK brings great comfort in these early days in Africa. Lots of love to you all.

Jess x

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